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How to maintain a healthy marriage?

An Islamic perspective

After the honeymoon phase is over, couples often find it hard to maintain a healthy marriage. It takes work to have a healthy marriage but it is possible. Just like good nutrition and regular exercise can help you have a healthy body, there are things you can do to have a healthy marriage.


10 tips to strengthen your marriage


1. Spend time with each other

Married partners need time together in order to grow strong. Plan date nights and weekend activities. You need a lot of quality time together


2. Negotiate conflict

Conflict is a normal part of any relationship. Working out problems in a relationship starts with understanding what your issues are and how to discuss them.


3. Be respectful

When a couple fails to respect each other, they end up damaging their own relationship. Treat your partner like you would like to be treated.


4. Don’t forget yourself

Make it a point to work on self-discovery. Many partners enter into relationships without knowing enough about themselves. Don’t be one of those people.


5. Focus on emotional intimacy

Your marriage should be a safe haven. Create that safe space for your partner to share his/her emotions without fear of judgment or ridicule.


6. Explore common interests

The Prophet (peace be upon him) would race with his beloved wife Aisha. You too can explore common interests with your spouse.


7. Pray together

Seek the blessings of Allah together. Pray together in congregation, read the Quran together, spend in charity together.


8. Express your love

When the Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked whom he loved the most, his answer was blatant - Aisha. Do you express love towards your spouse?


9. Forgive each other

You’ll err, they’ll err. The key is to keep forgiving each other.


10. Keep looking for the best

Instead of focusing on what they did wrong, focus on the good part. Your marriage will be much easier.


Marriage Courses Offered at the Ilm Institute

Happily Ever After - The Fiqh of Marriage

 by Sheikh Alaa Elsayed

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Strengthen the Knot

by Sr Bela Khan

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